To The Mothers They Don’t Make Cards For

Today the stores are full of flowers
wrapped in plastic smiles.

Card aisles rehearsing a script
about what a mother is supposed to be—
soft hands, warm hugs,
unconditional
written in pink cursive like it’s a guarantee.

But I know kids
who learned the word mum
by pointing
at someone
who didn’t give birth to them.

And nobody prints cards for that.

Nobody prints a card that says:
Thank you for staying
when leaving
would’ve been easier.

Or:
Thank you for showing up to the parent-teacher conference
while the teacher keeps calling you aunt
like love only counts
if the DNA matches.

Some people think motherhood
is biology.

Like it’s hidden in blood cells,
stitched into last names,
certified by hospital bracelets.

But I’ve seen mothers
who never stepped foot in a delivery room.

I’ve seen mothers
learning to braid hair at midnight
from a YouTube tutorial
because the kid needed it done
in the morning.

I’ve seen mothers
working double shifts
then coming home
to help with the homework
they never got the chance
to finish themselves.

I’ve seen mothers
who were really grandmothers,
neighbours,
big sisters,
step-parents,
foster parents,
teachers with extra snacks in their desk
for the kid who swore they “weren’t hungry.

I’ve seen mothers
in rain-soaked bleachers
screaming that’s my kid
with a voice loud enough
to argue with the whole world.

Because motherhood
is not nine months.

It’s the years after.

It’s packed lunches.
Late-night talks.
Text me when you get there.
I’m proud of you.

Tiny sentences
that stitch courage
into a child’s spine.

So today,
if you celebrate Mother’s Day

celebrate the woman who stayed.

The one who made space at the table.
The one who learned your fears
like a second language.

The one who chose you
again
and again
and again.

Because blood
might start a family.

But love—

love is the hands that stayed
long after the world said
they didn’t have to.

That’s a mother.
Even if the hospital
never wrote her name down.

(c)BobChristian

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About Bob W Christian

Bob W Christian has been writing poetry for more than 20 years. He started as a way to help to process his thoughts and emotions as an autistic man, and to address the impact of CPTSD. As he wrote, and slowly gained the confidence to share his poems, he was given incredibly positive feedback, which spurred him to write more. During that time, he has written six books, and had numerous guest publications in books and magazines around the world. His work has earned several accolades recently, including recognition in the Dark Poet’s Club 2025 competition. Alongside poetry, Bob enjoys photographing nature and birds, and is often praised for his keen eye behind the lens. A husband, father and grandfather, he regularly shares his observations, reflections and creative work through his personal blog, The Ramblings of Bob Christian.

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