How to Build a Coffin Out of Silence

They keep saying “Man Up”

Like silence is some kind of sacrament.

Like swallowing your grief whole

Is how you earn your stripes.


But I’ve seen what that silence does.

I’ve seen it wrap around a neck,

Like a necktie turned noose.

I’ve seen boys hide their hearts, and call it manhood.


Boys don’t cry.

Nah.  They just punch walls.

Break their own knuckles.

Drink, hoping for a solution

Until it’s someone else’s problem.

Until it’s their funeral.


And we call that strength?


Eighty percent. That’s not a number.

That’s a mass grave. A choir of voices

That were only echoes. 

Just statistics.


Just “He was such a good guy.

He was always laughing…

Even after the desert stopped being a location

And started being an emotional state.”


We’re told to be tough,

But we’re never taught to be whole. 

Told to carry the weight,

Yet we’re never told how to put it down.


They call it manhood. I call it emotional malpractice.

And I’m done treating tenderness like a threat.

Done pretending that depression wears a hoodie.

And not a three-piece suit or a uniform.


Because mental health is not a solo act.

It’s a group text at 2am…

It’s “You good?

It’s “Nah, but thanks for asking.”

It’s therapy without shame.

It’s community without competition.

It’s crying in the open, but not being called broken.


So yeah… Man down is not a defeat.

It’s a signal flare.

A Mayday call.

A prayer we are finally brave enough to say out loud.


And if you’ve made it this far; your heart is still beating

Under all that armour (real or remembered),

And this is your permission…

To rest. To rage. To reach.


This is your poem. This is your mirror.

This is your reason to stay.

Because feeling isn’t failing.

It’s fighting back.

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Fragments of Light & Unfamiliar Roads

What a strange and wonderful day it’s been.

First, I found out I’d received another accolade from the Dark Poets Club, which honestly means a great deal to me. Then, almost out of nowhere, I was offered the chance to be an official photographer for this year’s Torbay Pride event.

Photography is still very new territory for me. I’ve always just pointed the camera at things that caught my eye and hoped for the best, so stepping into something official feels both exciting and slightly overwhelming.

Still… growth rarely happens in comfort zones, does it?

Here’s to new experiences, learning curves, and seeing where the lens takes me next.

Stay safe,
BC

Op Ghostwalk

Hands in Both our Pockets

They point at the shoreline
like the country is drowning in rubber boats.
Like the reason your rent fills you with panic
is a man crossing the sea, with wet shoes
and a phone number stitched into his jacket.


Meanwhile, somewhere far from the food bank queue,
a billionaire laughs into a glass of champagne
on a yacht big enough to have its own postcode.


They tell us to fear the poor.
Never the people pricing us out of our own lives.
Never the landlords collecting houses
like football stickers.
Never the companies recording record profits
while your gran chooses between heating and eating
because both are luxuries now.

They don’t build anything.
They just keep your eyes busy… 
Feed you someone to blame;
Someone close enough to touch.
Someone poorer, louder, stranger than you.

And while you’re choking on anger;
While you’re tricked into mistaking hatred for power,
the real thieves slip their billions quietly past,
carrying our tomorrow out the back door.

(c)BobChristian

Life of Shadows

Working on something a little darker than my usual scribbles lately, as I prepare for a possible upcoming competition.

Failing that, I’m thinking of gathering the whole collection together into a chapbook called Life Of Shadows — which, if I’m honest, feels like the perfect title for where my head’s been wandering creatively of late.

There’s something strangely cathartic about opening the door and letting the dark passenger stretch its legs for a while. Not in a destructive sense, more in the way storms clear the air. Poetry has always been part confession booth, part exorcism for me anyway.

Here’s one of the pieces from the series. It’s called The Garden Stirs, and I’m genuinely proud to say it was shortlisted for the Dark Poets Prize IV.

https://www.darkpoets.club/post/the-garden-stirs

The Gospel According to No-One

If you’re reading this,

it’s probably because the world has grown teeth again.

Sharp ones.

And someone, somewhere,

has mistaken their fear for scripture.


I want to tell you something,

and I want you to remember it

like your own name in your own voice.

You are not a mistake.

You are not a contradiction.

You are not a sin

that snuck past the gates of Heaven

wearing a hoodie, and hoping not to be seen.


You are divine

in ways the pages of their ancient book

forgot how to describe.

You are every sunrise

they never looked up to witness.

You are love

before it’s been broken down

into rules, revisions, and red tape.


Listen to me very carefully,

because the world won’t always say it this plainly.

There is nothing wrong with you.

Not your softness.

Not your sharpness.

Not the way your truth

refuses to fold itself

into smaller shapes

just to make other people comfortable.


Some people will try to turn

Their Deity into a weapon

and aim it at you.

So remember,

anything that demands your erasure

to prove its holiness

is neither holy, nor worth your time.


Their sermons

are not stronger than my love.

Their bigotry

is not bigger than your light.

You never have to shrink to survive,

not while I have breath.

I will always stand

between you and their stones.


I will always be the place

you can come back to,

even if your voice is shaking,

even if your hands are tired

from building yourself over and over

in the aftermath of their ignorance.

And if anyone tells you

that your existence is an offense to their God,

look them in the eyes, and tell them:


“My father (who art in Devon) taught me

that love doesn’t need permission.”

Love, After Life

We died.

Which is wild

because death is way too organized

for something that dramatic.

Clipboards.

Carbon copies.

A final “sign here please

on the dotted line of our chests.


Turns out

“‘til death do us part

wasn’t a metaphor –

it was a legally binding break-up clause.


Nobody warned me that love came

with terms and conditions.

Nobody told me that forever

had an asterisk the size of a heartbeat.


So now we’re single.

Technically.


Same café.

Same chipped mug.

Because habits are harder to kill than people,

and my heart still orders caffeine

like it never got the obituary.


You hover by the almond milk

like a multiple-choice question

we both answered wrong,

while we were alive.


You say, “hey!”

that thin, careful syllable

people use

when they’re not sure

they’re allowed to miss you yet.


Half-ghost.

Half-regret.

All the years we never unpacked.


You ask if I want to get coffee sometime…

like we didn’t already share toothbrushes,

like eternity didn’t just hit

the reset button

and hand us amnesia with good lighting.


I laugh… and

spill my whole damn soul on the counter.

Then say something stupid.

Because love has always turned me

into a human typo.


I say,

Only if you’re buying”.


And just like that,

we’re dating again.


Not because we’re lonely.

Not because we’re scared of the silence.


But because even death

looked at us and said,

Yeah… I don’t know where to file this”.


Some loves just don’t end.

They only lose their bodies;

learn how to haunt politely,

and keep showing up

Because the universe

forgot to evict them.


(c)BobChristian

To The Mothers They Don’t Make Cards For

Today the stores are full of flowers
wrapped in plastic smiles.

Card aisles rehearsing a script
about what a mother is supposed to be—
soft hands, warm hugs,
unconditional
written in pink cursive like it’s a guarantee.

But I know kids
who learned the word mum
by pointing
at someone
who didn’t give birth to them.

And nobody prints cards for that.

Nobody prints a card that says:
Thank you for staying
when leaving
would’ve been easier.

Or:
Thank you for showing up to the parent-teacher conference
while the teacher keeps calling you aunt
like love only counts
if the DNA matches.

Some people think motherhood
is biology.

Like it’s hidden in blood cells,
stitched into last names,
certified by hospital bracelets.

But I’ve seen mothers
who never stepped foot in a delivery room.

I’ve seen mothers
learning to braid hair at midnight
from a YouTube tutorial
because the kid needed it done
in the morning.

I’ve seen mothers
working double shifts
then coming home
to help with the homework
they never got the chance
to finish themselves.

I’ve seen mothers
who were really grandmothers,
neighbours,
big sisters,
step-parents,
foster parents,
teachers with extra snacks in their desk
for the kid who swore they “weren’t hungry.

I’ve seen mothers
in rain-soaked bleachers
screaming that’s my kid
with a voice loud enough
to argue with the whole world.

Because motherhood
is not nine months.

It’s the years after.

It’s packed lunches.
Late-night talks.
Text me when you get there.
I’m proud of you.

Tiny sentences
that stitch courage
into a child’s spine.

So today,
if you celebrate Mother’s Day

celebrate the woman who stayed.

The one who made space at the table.
The one who learned your fears
like a second language.

The one who chose you
again
and again
and again.

Because blood
might start a family.

But love—

love is the hands that stayed
long after the world said
they didn’t have to.

That’s a mother.
Even if the hospital
never wrote her name down.

(c)BobChristian

The Garden Stirs

Last year I entered the Dark Poets Prize IV, with a poem called “The Garden Stirs”.

This is the sequel to my award-winning piece, called “The Eternal Garden of Shadows”.

Both of these pieces are part of my Life of Shadows series, which is currently a collection of seven poems, and I am adding to it at the moment.

I’m pleased to say that “The Garden Stirs” earned me a shortlist spot with the Dark Poets Club.

“The Garden Stirs”

Peace is a liar.

It wears a mask of soil and silence,

But beneath the garden, something breathes.

Not worms. Not rot.

Something that remembers my hands. 

The farmhouse walls groan in tones too close to your voice.

At night, I hear footfalls in the hall…

Not the echo of my own,

But yours, dragging like broken promises. 

The mirror is the first traitor.

Where once I saw resolve, now your grin.

Eyes black, glistening with remembered laughter,

The kind that came before pain,

Before the belts, the cellar, the ‘lessons’.

I dug your grave deep,

But the earth is a poor keeper of secrets.

It whispers at dusk,

Sings lullabies in your tone, off-key and venomous. 

I burn sage. Salt. Books. My skin.

Nothing stops the smell of you:

Leather, sweat, basement mildew,

The musk of unholy patience

As you waited for me to cry. 

I found dirt on the floor by my bed.

Handprints leading to the wall.

No child’s, no animal’s.

The shape is familiar

I remember those fingers around my throat. 

Your voice is bolder now.

Less whisper, more command.

You tell me I did it wrong

That the grave is yours, but the punishment is mine.

I weep. The house shakes with laughter. 

I no longer sleep. I dig.

Every night, the same garden.

The same screams.

Not from below

From me. 

And the earth is getting soft again.

Something’s trying to come through.

Not worms. Not rot.

Something that remembers my hands.

(c)BobChristian