I’m excited to announce that this weekend, I’ll be one of the official photographers covering this years Torbay Pride on the 13th June.
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Category Archives: Ramblings of Bob
Autumn Whispers
What is your favorite season of year? Why?
If you asked me which season of the year I hold closest to my heart, my answer would come without a moment’s hesitation: autumn.
There is a magic in that turning of the Wheel. Summer’s relentless heat softens, mornings arrive shrouded in mist, and the world transforms into a living tapestry of gold, amber, and crimson. Nature seems to pause, taking a long, slow breath before the hush of winter descends.
I have always found comfort in the cooler air. The oppressive heat of summer gives way to crisp walks through the woods, to the scent of fallen leaves that carries a nostalgia that words can barely touch. Autumn asks us to slow down, to reflect, to reconnect with the rhythms of the natural world that too often pass unnoticed.
But my love for this season runs deeper than the beauty of its colors or the relief from heat. Autumn holds my favourite of the eight Sabbats: Samhain.
For many, Samhain is simply Halloween, a time for costumes and candy. Yet in the Pagan traditions, it holds far more weight. Samhain marks the close of the harvest and the onset of the darker half of the year. It is a transitional season, when the boundaries between worlds thin and the veil between the living and the dead grows fragile. It is a time for remembrance, for reflection, for honouring those who came before us.
There is profound comfort in this. In our modern world, conversations about death are often avoided, yet Samhain asks us to face it, to embrace it as part of life’s natural cycle. It reminds us that those who are no longer physically with us continue to shape our lives through their stories, their wisdom, their love.
Each year, as the nights lengthen and the leaves drift from the trees, I pause to remember my ancestors, family, and friends who have passed. I light candles. I share stories. I offer gratitude. In doing so, I feel tethered not just to those I have known, but to the countless generations who have honoured this season long before my time.
Autumn teaches that endings are not to be feared. The falling leaf is not only a symbol of death but also a promise of renewal. Nature sheds what is no longer needed so that fresh growth may emerge when the time is right. There is wisdom in that, a lesson I carry with me throughout the year.
Every season has its own song, but autumn speaks most clearly to my soul. It is a season of reflection, of gratitude, of transformation. A season of remembrance. A season of quiet mystery.
And as the veil thins and the year leans toward its close, I find myself once more beneath an autumn sky, listening to the whispers of the ancestors riding on the wind.
Stay safe,
Bc
The Luxury of Paying Attention
What’s the one luxury you can’t live without?
My camera.
Not because it’s expensive. Not because it’s the latest model. And certainly not because it makes me look like a photographer.
It’s a luxury because it helps me see.
A camera slows me down. It makes me notice the details most people walk past—the play of light on a wall, a fleeting expression, a quiet moment that would otherwise disappear forever.
The older I get, the more I realise that memories fade, but photographs have a remarkable way of bringing them back to life. They remind us not just what we saw, but how we felt.
So if I had to choose one luxury, it wouldn’t be a watch, a car, or a gadget.
It would be my camera.
Because it doesn’t just capture moments—it helps me appreciate them while I’m living them.
Stay safe
Bc
#taglines
If humans had taglines, what would yours be?
Mine would probably be:
“Beautifully imperfect. Still growing.”
It’s honest, leaves room for mistakes, and reminds me that none of us are finished products.
Besides, life would be terribly boring if we got everything right the first time.
Stay safe,
Bc
A Good Heart and a Moral Compass
What are the most important things needed to live a good life?
People spend a lot of time chasing the secret to a good life.
More money.
A bigger house.
A better job.
More followers.
More stuff.
Yet the older I get, the more I realise that most of those things are optional.
The foundations of a good life are surprisingly simple.
First, you need a solid moral compass.
Not somebody else’s.
Your own.
A set of values that helps you recognise the difference between right and wrong, especially when nobody is watching. Life becomes a lot easier when your decisions are guided by principles instead of convenience.
The second thing is a good heart.
Good intentions matter.
Treat people with kindness.
Show compassion when you can.
Help where you’re able.
The world already has enough people looking out only for themselves. It never seems to have enough people genuinely trying to leave things a little better than they found them.
Will you always get it right?
No.
None of us do.
We’re human. We make mistakes. We stumble. We learn.
What matters is that you keep trying.
A good life isn’t built on perfection.
It’s built on character.
A solid moral compass.
A good heart.
And the willingness to keep moving forward when life gets messy.
Everything else is just decoration.
Stay safe,
Bc
Narnia in Bloom
The gardens really started to bloom with all this rain, here’s a few snaps of the action from the garden over the last seven days.
The Company We Keep
Who do you spend the most time with?
I’ve noticed that the older I get, the smaller my circle becomes.
During the working day, I spend most of my time with two other people. We’re a close-knit team and, after enough hours together, you end up knowing each other’s habits, quirks, and coffee requirements better than you probably should.
Outside of work, it’s mostly Mrs Bob and our cat Tiddles (which, for legal reasons and feline dignity, is not actually her name).
Truthfully, I’m not a particularly social creature.
I don’t go out much unless it’s lodge night, Saturday coffee morning, or I’ve wandered off somewhere with a camera looking for birds that refuse to sit still long enough to be photographed.
And I’m perfectly content with that.
So, who do I spend the most time with?
The people who matter.
Because if I’m choosing to spend lots of time with you when nobody is paying either of us to be there, then you’re probably someone rather special to me.
And these days, that feels like time well spent.
Stay safe,
Bc.
How I Became Bob W Christian
If you had to change your name, what would your new name be?
This is actually a very easy question for me to answer.
In fact, you’re looking at it.
Well, sort of.
You see, I unofficially changed my name years ago when I started writing under a pen name. What began as a practical decision slowly became the name most people know me by.
The full version is Robert Walter Christian, although most people know me professionally as Bob W Christian. I’ve been using that name for the best part of twenty years now, so it feels just as natural as any name possibly could.
Now, before anyone starts digging through birth records and old school registers, no, it isn’t my real name.
That remains a closely guarded secret. Not because it’s particularly exciting, but because when I first started sharing my scribbles, much of what I wrote was deeply personal.
Using a pen name allowed me to create a little distance between the writer and the man behind the curtain.
It gave me the freedom to write honestly.
As for where the name came from, that’s the easy part.
Walter Christian was a man I loved dearly and admired greatly. The kind of man who leaves footprints on your life long after he’s gone. Choosing to carry part of his name felt right.
The “Bob” part is far less dramatic.
I’ve always thought Bob is one of those wonderfully ordinary names. No grand expectations. No airs and graces. Just Bob. A simple, everyday sort of name for a simple, everyday sort of bloke.
So, if I had to change my name, I suppose the answer is that I already have.
Not officially.
Not on any important paperwork.
But in the world of poetry, photography, and the occasional ramblings on the internet, Bob W Christian has been me for a very long time.
And honestly, I think I’ll stick with him.
Stay safe
Bc
Frozen Chocolate and Other Questionable Life Choices
Describe your dream chocolate bar.
My dream chocolate bar already exists.
In fact, it exists twice.
One is chilli chocolate. The other is sea salt chocolate. Both are handmade by the Benedictine monks at the local abbey, and both are absolutely delicious. If you’ve never tried proper handmade chocolate, you’re missing out.
But let’s pretend they don’t exist and we’re all auditioning for a role in Charlie and the Chocolate Factory.
In that case, I’d invent a liquorice-infused chocolate bar that’s permanently frozen at room temperature.
I know.
It’s a bit odd.
Then again, anyone who knows me will tell you that “a bit odd” is pretty much my default setting.
You see, I like my chocolate frozen. Not just chocolate bars either. Creme Eggs, pretty much anything chocolate-based tastes better after a stint in the freezer. Don’t get me wrong, I’ll happily eat it at room temperature, but chilled chocolate just hits differently.
Maybe it’s the texture. Maybe it’s the extra crunch. Maybe I’m simply strange.
Actually, scratch that last one. We already know I’m strange.
So yes, if Willy Wonka ever phones and asks for ideas, frozen liquorice chocolate is what I’m bringing to the table.
The world may not be ready for it.
But I certainly am.
Stay safe,
Bc
The Most Dangerous Words Men Still Hear.
I’ve been thinking about two words recently.
Two tiny words.
Two words that have probably done more damage to men than we would ever care to admit.
Man up.
Simple, right?
Harmless, even.
Just a phrase.
Except it isn’t.
It’s a command.
An order.
A warning.
A lesson many of us were taught long before we were old enough to understand what it meant.
You fell over and hurt yourself?
Man up.
Heart broken?
Man up.
Scared?
Man up.
Depressed?
Man up.
Anxious?
Man up.
Struggling to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders?
You guessed it.
Man up.
Somewhere along the way, many of us learned that being a man meant being silent.
We learned that tears were weakness.
That vulnerability was dangerous.
That asking for help was somehow failure.
So we became experts at hiding.
We hid behind humour.
Behind work.
Behind alcohol.
Behind anger.
Behind “I’m fine.”
Especially behind “I’m fine.”
Because that’s the magic trick, isn’t it?
The greatest performance most men ever give.
Standing there with a smile on their face while their world burns quietly behind their eyes.
The trouble is, pain doesn’t disappear just because you refuse to acknowledge it.
It doesn’t pack its bags and leave.
It moves in.
Unpacks.
Makes itself comfortable.
What starts as sadness becomes exhaustion.
Exhaustion becomes frustration.
Frustration becomes anger.
Anger becomes isolation.
And isolation becomes a place far darker than most people realise.
I’ve known men who could rebuild engines.
Men who could run businesses.
Men who could walk into burning buildings.
Men who would give the shirt off their back to help a stranger.
Yet those same men couldn’t say three simple words.
“I need help.”
Not because they were weak.
Because they’d spent decades being taught that strength meant suffering in silence.
What a cruel lie that is.
Real strength isn’t pretending you’re invincible.
Real strength isn’t bottling everything up until the pressure becomes unbearable.
Real strength is honesty.
It’s having the courage to say:
“I’m struggling.”
“I’m tired.”
“I’m not okay.”
And perhaps most importantly:
“I can’t do this alone.”
The strongest men I’ve ever met weren’t fearless.
They weren’t emotionless.
They weren’t made of stone.
They were human.
Beautifully, imperfectly human.
They cried when life hurt.
They talked when things became too heavy.
They reached out when they needed support.
And because of that, they survived storms that silence would never have allowed them to survive.
The reality is that men’s mental health isn’t a men’s issue.
It’s everyone’s issue.
Every husband.
Every father.
Every brother.
Every son.
Every friend sitting quietly at the end of the table laughing at the jokes while fighting battles nobody can see.
We lose far too many good men because they believed they had to carry everything alone.
Because they believed asking for help made them less of a man.
Because somebody, somewhere, taught them that “man up” was the answer.
Maybe it’s time we retired the phrase.
Maybe instead of telling men to man up, we should tell them to speak up.
To open up.
To reach out.
To show up exactly as they are.
Not as society expects them to be.
Not as some impossible version of masculinity demands.
Just as themselves.
Because there is nothing brave about suffering in silence.
And there is nothing weak about asking for help.
If you’re reading this and things feel heavy right now, I want you to know something.
You don’t have to carry it all today.
You don’t have to win every battle before breakfast.
You don’t have to have all the answers.
And you certainly don’t have to pretend.
Talk to someone.
A friend.
A partner.
A family member.
A professional.
Anyone.
Just don’t sit alone in the darkness convincing yourself that silence is strength.
It isn’t.
Never was.
The bravest thing some men will ever do is speak.
And maybe that’s what being a man should have meant all along.
Stay safe.
BC
The Ramblings of Bob Christian 